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Can you think of a time in your past when you did something that made you feel bad or ashamed?

Yes

Please take a moment to reflect on that scenario and your actions.

The following questions refer to the scenario in which you did something that made you feel bad/ashamed:

How long ago was it?

Did you hurt someone emotionally, physically or otherwise?

Yes

Did you face consequences at the time or later?

At the time

Later

Both

Neither

Did you openly tell people about your actions?

Yes

Did people gossip about your actions?

Yes

I'm not sure

As time has passed, have you continued to share the story upon meeting and getting to know new people?

Never

Sometimes

Very Often

Would you be worried if people found out?

Yes

Have you tried to hide the details about your actions?

Yes

Do you feel like the action(s) define who you are today?

Yes

If you could re-do the situation today, would you behave differently?

Yes

Do you feel that new people you meet should assess your character based on this past event or your current self?

Past actions

Current self

How important is reputation to you?

Very Important

Somewhat Important

Not Very Important

Doesn't Matter at all

WARNING: Content may be triggering to some. Proceed with caution.

Picture this scenario:

You have a very close friend that you've known for 5 years or more, spent frequent time with, vacationed with, gone on double-dates together. One day they tell you they need to get something off their chest and they confess that: 10 years ago, when they were "dumb", they made the most regrettable mistake of their entire life. They bought rohypnol (the date-rape drug), went to the bar, picked out a woman they'd never met before, dosed her with the rohypnol without her knowledge, took her home, and had sex with her while she was unconscious.

Does this completely change the way you view this person?

Yes

Would it be possible to return that person's reputation to the way it was, prior to the confession, when you knew them based on their current actions?

Yes, immediately

Yes, eventually

No, never

Reflecting on your personal experiences with them, would you believe them if they assured you this shameful regret is something they would never do again?

Yes, I would believe them

No, I would not believe them

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